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Title: The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands
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| The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Harper Paperbacks An interesting display of wisdom and ignorance | This book is bound to both entertain, delight and irritate people of both genders, for very different reasons. It is unlikely that after 40 years of feminist misandry, women are likely to change the habits they've picked up. There's no hope for that lost generation, but today they're reaching retirement age, and now it's the younger generations of women that matter most. What is pleasing is the number of young women I meet who've clearly rejected the attitudes of a generation of women who are now nearing retirement age lonely and single. The problem with books like these though, is that they always present stereotypical men and women who seem about as lifelike as Ken and Barbie.
Besides that, the author obviously felt compelled to offset her unpopular message to women by belittling men at the same time, as if to cheer her female readers up a little. She claims that man is a "very simple creature," who needs only "direct communication, respect, appreciation, food, and good loving'" to respond with devotion, compassion and love. What she means is that, compared with women, men are emotionally uncomplicated. No argument there. But could we call Thomas Edison a very simple creature because his emotional needs were uncomplicated? A very simple creature would have been unable to change the world with his inventive and creative genius, or have an intellect that has doubled the world's population in a few centuries. If that is a simple creature, then what name to give a creature which has shown and shows no creative drive or gift of invention, despite occupying 60% of university study places in the USA? 'Extremely simple'? 'Unbelievably uncreative'? Or 'Just plain stupid?'? In a perfect world, a person making such a claim would be condemned to one month living only on female inventions, although admittedly, that may qualify as a cruel and unusual punishment.
Besides her own prejudices though, this is a book which offers some interesting food for thought. Ultimately, everyone has to work out their own unique relationship though, and should just use this book for tips rather than as some kind of relationship bible. Perhaps the biggest failing of this book and many others like it, is that they lead people to the false conclusion that happiness is to be found through another person. No system of spiritual advancement has ever advocated finding strength and happiness through someone else. It is up to all of us to ensure that we spiritually grow, which is our main purpose as human beings, be that with a partner or not. The western fantasy of romance has caused so much unnecessary misery. It is interesting and revealing to note that women from cultures where romantic relationships are the exception, and marriages are more practical affairs, that these women are made of far stronger emotional material than western women, many of whom remain children inside, looking for a man to replace their parents, or the security of their family homes. Remember to always keep your own spiritual development in mind, that the western concept of romantic love is artificial, not naturally evolved or the only form of relationship, and that a guarantee for eventual unhappiness is to seek strength in another. | | The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Harper Paperbacks How to live miserably ever after | That should be the subtitle. Within the pages of this book is advice that will, if you follow it to a 'T,' help you to become the miserable you-know-what Dr. Laura already thinks you are.
The following are a few of the more pathetic pieces of "advice" she vomits out:
1) Don't talk to your husband about your problems, talk to your girlfriends. You husband is only here to meet physical needs (his more than yours), not to listen to you "whine."
--I suggest you ask your spouse about this before swallowing it hook, line, and sinker in the name of wifely submission. It might sound good to him on the surface, but mention that it means you'll be complaining to your friends about him as well. If he's any sort of human being, he probably won't like it.
1b) Women don't want their problems solved, they only want to whine.
--Really? News to me, as well as to most reasonable women. Now, there ARE women who don't. There are women who just want to whine, I'm related to a lot of them. They are not the type of woman who will read this book. They type of woman who will read this book is the one who feels there is a problem in her marriage and wants to solve it...uh, I think I'm beginning to see where Dr. Laura's "logic" fails.
2) What a woman wants out of a marriage is what she sees on a soap opera, without the affairs.
--This, of course, assumes that all women waste their time watching soap operas in the first place. I would presume that when (ha-ha) she gets around to writing "The Proper Care & Feeding of Wives" she will advise husbands to spend time watching these types of shows so they can be better husbands.
3) You have "let yourself go" (ie you are now fat) and you dress like a bag. Dress sexy and get in shape, then your husband will like you.
--Another assumption of Dr. Laura is that fat women never get married. The only type of bride Dr. Laura has ever seen is a skinny one. Of all the advice she offers this is, hands down, the most damaging. There are going to be women out there who are already skinny, already doing all the other crap she suggests in this book, and they are going to think, "If only I become thinner, then he'll respect me." Our culture's obsession with weight isn't bad enough, Dr. Laura wants every woman to essentially starve herself until she's thin enough to please her fickle husband.
In short, the gist of Dr. Laura's book is that, unless a man wants to have children, he would be better off with a cook, a housekeeper, and a prostitute. You are a worthless piece of crud who doesn't even deserve him. | | The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Harper Paperbacks A must read! | | In my opinion, this book is a "must read" for any one looking at getting married, male or female. Any married woman that is feeling "not quite satisfied" in her marriage would do well to give this book a try. If I were a man, I would buy a copy for my wife and encourage her to read it, maybe even read it together. A lot of good information. Save the money on the marriage counselor, buy this book and act on it! | | The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Harper Paperbacks Taking Responsibility | A breath of fresh air is what this book is!
To quote:
* A change in attitude and a commitment to quality actions can bring such profound joy.
* Take responsibility for you own well being; stay rested, don't over commit and then complain, stay in touch with friends with a positive influence.
To quote me: Don't think for a minute that others find a hard working, faithful, loving man as being the schmuck- (you fill in the word) that you think he is.
* Me:Don't put making love to your husband after all of your other commitments! That's just idiotic!
There are literally thousands of women out there that would love to be my husband's wife. I have never taken him for granted or lessen him as a man.
My husband is hardly perfect, but neither am I. But he is the man, as Dr. Laura says, I chose to be the father of my children and the man I made a vow to.
How can I treat him any thing but kindness and respect. I what I get back for that effort is incredible! | | The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Harper Paperbacks Dr. Laura at her most Dr. Laura-ish: no surprises here! | | Excellent no-nonsense classic Dr. Laura, telling women how to stop whining, complaining and being focused on themselves, and instead start to notice, care about and treat their husband right. The narrative is thickly padded with sizable excerpts from Dr. Laura's radio conversations and even letters from her listeners; however, the excerpts certainly serve to illustrate her points. Altogether a great, fairly quick read that helps to change the reader to get a "new attitude". | | The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands by Harper Paperbacks Product Description | In her most provocative book yet, Dr. Laura urgently reminds women that to take proper care of their husbands is to ensure themselves the happiness and satisfaction they yearn for in marriage. Women want to be in love, get married, and live happily ever after. Yet disrespect for men and disregard for the value, feelings, and needs of husbands has fast become the standard for male-female relations in America. Those two attitudes clash in unfortunate ways to create struggle and strife in what could be a beautiful relationship. Countless women call Dr. Laura, unhappy in their marriages and seemingly at a loss to understand the incredible power they have over their men to create the kind of home life they yearn for. Now, in The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura shows you—with real-life examples and real-life solutions—how to wield that power to attain all the sexual pleasure, intimacy, love, joy, and peace you want in your life. Dr. Laura's simple principles have changed the lives of millions. Now they can change yours. |
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