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Title: The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost (Classics in Human Development)
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| The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost (Classics in Human Development) by Da Capo Press Amazing.. I've lost sleep over this book | even though I carried my second child everywhere with me, I still have lost sleep over this book.. I am stunned how we are all so conditioned & condition our children in this world. I was slightly aware of this concept before I read this book, but have now become more intrigued and fully aware of how society is blinded on raising children.
A must read for all parents, grandparents and parents to be, It will change your way of thinking forever. | | The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost (Classics in Human Development) by Da Capo Press Brilliant developmental psychology. Gorgeous work. | | Don't let anyone, including your doctor, tell you that it's fine to let your infant remain in a raging cry for hours on end, else you risk raising them as "spoiled." This book puts that argument to rest. Read it, and understand that, from the moment of birth, our life is about seeking the completely effortless bond we had with our mother prior to being dropped into vertical, competitive civilization. Should be required reading for every parent on earth. | | The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost (Classics in Human Development) by Da Capo Press author should try it on her childern,... | but wait ! she has none...
If you think this book helped you, good for you.
Like most baby books, it may or may not apply to 15% of the population, in my opinion it would apply to much a lower number.
And like in any advice book, don't take it too seriously, see if it works for you and your baby, don't go religious with it.
Every suggestion in this book is drawn from the life of a primitive tribe, and unless you live in similar environment, this is where the fantasy ends end reality breaks in.
Carrying your child on you all the time can result in an over clingy child.
Letting a child go his marry way around knives (just like the tribe-folk do) will more likely to result in a catastrophe than anything else.
take that book with a grain of salt, it sounds good in theory and might work in a jungle. | | The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost (Classics in Human Development) by Da Capo Press Life-changing | I absolutely hated almost every minute of this book, but it changed my parenting for the better. I don't think I could have gotten quite that paradigm shift any other way.
But I agree with some other reviewers who called Liedloff hyperbolic, and I found her overwhelmingly fundamentalist, in the sense that she presents things in black and white, with little room for variation. The Yequana are living rightly, and we are living wrongly, and this is the cause of our suffering -- this was a particularly ingratiating point of view. I found some parts of this book completely unbearable and ridiculous, such as the loong description of the 'horrors' a child suffers at the hands of a mother who leaves him alone to cry. I find it horrible to hear a child cry uncomforted, and I don't need pages and pages to learn that. Maybe it's because I'm parenting 30 years after this book helped catalyze a parenting revolution?
The idea of a 'continuum' being our natural state of being and set of needs for our environments was a revolutionary idea for me even though I had already been "attachment parenting" for years when I read this. Before I read this book, I had a vague idea of how our culture is particularly hard on mothers and children, but now I have a real framework for understanding why it is and how to grow through it. | | The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost (Classics in Human Development) by Da Capo Press Accept what is useful, reject what is useless and add what is specifically your own | The above title is Bruce Lee's saying about learning martial arts but it applies to everything. Some people focus on what is wrong with a book and can miss the good stuff in it. Also people need to put relative values on different things said. You cannot expect people to be perfect. I have found really stupid things that brilliant people have said. Albert Einstein's theory of relativity was proven as a fact and he became an overnight celebrity the day after. But he said that people would never be able to use the energy in the atom. So even the guy recognized as having the most brilliant mind, made a mistake.
With Jean's book, the version that I read did not have the thing about homosexuality in it. But that was not the whole point of the book. If it was, you could not remove it. Arnold Ehret wrote a book about health around 1900. It was very popular in the 1970s and many of the ideas in it became part of the accepted view of health. For example, the stuff about mucus forming foods. But he did say something strange but no one ever repeats it. He said that the moustache was a secondary sexual organ.
But that was one stupid sentence in the whole book. You do not judge the whole book on that one sentence with nothing else ever mentioned about that again. Just like you do not judge Albert Einstein on his one sentence that turned out to be totally wrong. I have found other really stupid things that brilliant people have said but it is probably due to personal issues that they have. So you can ignore the minor things.
I have read some of the others reviews. Ehret's book on health was not about moustaches. Jean's book was not about what category it should be placed in to sell well. It was not about homosexuals. I must admit that maybe people's reviews had caused her to fix some things in the version that I read. But it was obvious that she got this from the Yequana tribe and she did compare it to modern parenting, unlike what some reviews said.
The basic idea Jean's book was that it was better for the infant to be held than to be left alone as some people believe. Another example of mistakes is Dr Herbert Shelton. He wrote many books on health and treated 40,000 people with serious health problems. Now there are many MDs and other health care professionals that follow his teachings that at one point were called "Natural Hygiene." This is the basis of the 2 "Fit for Life" books on health. Yet this brilliant guy said that infants should be left alone and not bothered.
Jean taught that a baby left alone in a playpen is not going to learn much compared to a baby that is brought into the daily life of the adult. Most Americans have a lack of self-esteem that would be a result of the baby not being held much. So this is the basis of the whole book, not all these minor things. Also the idea of sleeping with the baby was different than modern methods.
Dr Martin Seligman was president of the American Psychological Association and is now director of the Positive Psychology Network that studies how everyone can be happier. He wrote many books on psychology including "Learned Optimism." In his book, "Authentic Happiness," he mentioned that he and his wife (with psychology degrees) slept with all 4 of his children.
Someone mentioned that she said people want to be touched since they were not held enough as babies, but babies being held a lot also want to be touched. So this was mentioned as a contradiction. But people who are depressed and have lots of mental problems want to be happy. People who are happy and without mental problems also want to be happy. That is not a contradiction. So you can say that the default nature of the human being is to be happy and to be fond of touching.
I have done many personal growth seminars in Philadelphia. I was very surprised to see that almost every person had a problem with self-esteem when I did not have that. So I figured that I was just different. But years later I read The Continuum Concept and that explained it. My grandmother would hold me all the time when I was a baby since it was her favorite thing to do.
Jean also explained that people want to hold babies. Again this is what the whole book is about. I was babysitting a baby and sat down with a group of neighbors outside. I was sitting next to a 6 year old girl. She kept grabbing at the baby. So I said "Would you like to hold him?" The mother said "Are you crazy?" I replied that I would also be holding the baby. So she held the baby for a few minutes and was happy. Then the mother asked to hold him and she held him for 5 minutes. The other 4 women all did the same thing one after another. Now HOLDING A BABY has nothing to do with category, homosexuality, looking for diamonds, playing with knives, playing near a bottomless hole, giving credit to the Yequanas and other things mentioned about the book. | | The Continuum Concept: In Search Of Happiness Lost (Classics in Human Development) by Da Capo Press Product Description | Jean Liedloff, an American writer, spent two and a half years in the South American jungle living with Stone Age Indians. The experience demolished her Western preconceptions of how we should live and led her to a radically different view of what human nature really is. She offers a new understanding of how we have lost much of our natural well-being and shows us practical ways to regain it for our children and for ourselves. |
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