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Title: Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: The Body/Mind Connection
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| Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: The Body/Mind Connection by Random House A profoundly informative book. | I am considered a successful woman, educated and accomplished, yet like many others, suffered significant physical and emotional abuse as a child of old world parents. While there is a wide variety of therapy and therapists, I never felt successful at it. I never felt free of the "deep feelings of rejection", or cured of depression. I was profoundly affected by reading this book and was ready to fly anywhere I could engage in EMDR therapy. I did find a psychiatrist locally who agreed to work with me and it has absolutely changed my life. I experienced profound realizations and consider myself "cured", finally free from past negative experiences. I'm not a healer, don't know all the buzzwords like immunoneuropsychology. I just know that this book completely turned me over and shook me up and showed me the possibility of life-altering changes within me.
If you have a science background, and enjoy reading about biochemistry, another great book on the physical/emotional connection is "Molecules of Emotion" by Dr. Candice Pert. | | Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: The Body/Mind Connection by Random House Stress & Repressed Memories Can Wreak Havoc on Our Bodies. | Our bodies hold on to painful episodes from the past. Early trauma and deeply buried feelings become woven into the fabric of our physical being. These echoes from the past cause disruptive patterns in life and relationships. Our bodies can hold the knowledge of situations and events we have forgotten, yet are deeply rooted in experiences of the past. Memories exist within the body's nervous system.
Harmful events long since slipped beneath the surface of awareness are lodged in our brain and surface at unexpected times with symptoms such as emotional swings, panic, feeling helpless and powerless, fear of the future, along with physical ailments, like greater susceptibility to colds, 'low energy,' changes in sleep patterns -- even nightmares. Sometimes symptoms develop when aspects of a person's past history are so stuck in your body and psyche that they erupt endlessly into current day existence.
Many are diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder, once considered to be related to military combat malfunctioning, but is not at all uncommon these days. The latest scientific findings show that 60% males, 51% females had signifigant PTSD as adults, some trauma going back to parental neglect during their childhoods. In the aftermath, studies show that women are more than twice as likely to suffer needlessly, as the aftereffects can persist for years undiagnosed and untreated.
Mrs. Scarf uses narratives to tell the secret stories of 'volunteers' willing to share their secrets (shame-related, motivated by love and loyalty, those kept from Self, etc.). She writes: "for what could be more secret, more mortifying and shame-ridden, than those painful, sometimes overwhelming remembrances of the past that most of us don't want to examine candidly, even think about, much less reveal to other people?"
As Peter Fonda put it in his memoir, DON'T TELL DAD: "I would prefer to never again think of the dark parts of my past." He's not alone in wishing the painful episodes could just disappear. This book shows they never do.
She recognizes Dr. Bessel van der Kolk in Boston to be the 'father of present-day research in this field.' The author admits experiencing painful symptoms when she wrestles with contradictory memories of her mother. She interviewed so many doctors, therapists, and psychologists for this book, it's as if she was receiving "free" therapy as a result.
Trauma can be caused by a threat to the physical integrity of another person, according to the DIAGNOSTIC AND STATISTICAL MANUAL to which she refers. She lists 'Acts of Violence' and 'Emotional and Economic Attacks' in Appendix 2, listing and giving examples of what affects us all. Some are Intimidation, Threats, Disrespect (putting you down in front of other people), Destructive Criticism, among others.
She attended a writing class at Yale taught by Susan Cheever, so she would be able to present her findings for the ordinary person to understand and be able to learn from the admissions of others. The people interviewed by Mrs. Scarf knew the secrets they revealed would be used in a book. She expresses her appreciation for their candidness and willingness with this statement, "I have wondered about you, worried about you, admired you; above all, learned from you."
She has received several National Media awards from the American Psychological Foundation, has written three previous books, and is a contributing editor to 'The New Republic.'
The reader can learn things from her research, such as "one can't eliminate childhood memories, but can see those things in perspective as what they are, more finite in size." | | Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: The Body/Mind Connection by Random House Breaking the Body Mind Code | | Maggie Scarf is at her best in this case study exploration of the way the body stores life's traumas. The idea of a body-mind connection is hardly new; it's even fashionable. What Scarf offers the reader, in addition to a compelling read, are real insights into how these traumas can be identified, how they become locked in the body, and, most impressively, how they may be unlocked. Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: The Body/Mind Connection,like her landmark study of women and depression, Unfinished Business, is a "must read" and a "must know." | | Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: The Body/Mind Connection by Random House Very Interesting Case Studies | | For anyone who loves to read case studies and is interested in how the brain works and how things in our past affect everything from our personalities to our health and relationships. | | Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: The Body/Mind Connection by Random House A Great Start! | | Check out Dr. Sarno's work on back pain, Doc Don Colbert's "Deadly Emotions" and "A More Excellent Way" by Henry Wright. The last two are Christian-based books, so they include the mind-body-spirit connection. | | Secrets, Lies, Betrayals: The Body/Mind Connection by Random House Product Description | Reading Maggie Scarf’s groundbreaking new book could change your life. In Secrets, Lies, Betrayals, the bestselling author of Unfinished Business, Intimate Partners, and Intimate Worlds brilliantly explores how the body holds on to painful episodes from the past—including secrets we may be keeping even from ourselves—and how we can release them to live freer, healthier lives.
The body has a unique memory system, in which early trauma and deeply buried feelings become woven into the fabric of our physical being. Certain events can trigger these body memories, which may then manifest themselves symptomatically—as persistent anger, mood swings, headaches, muscle tension, and fatigue. These echoes from the past also cause destructive patterns in our lives and relationships.
Why does a beautiful, successful woman like Claudia seek out abusive, explosively tense relationships in which she is forced to hide the truth about herself? Why does the presence of a strange woman’s name in her husband’s cell phone directory make Karen feel physically ill, to the point where she cannot get through her daily life? And why does the author herself experience painful physical symptoms when she wrestles with contradictory memories of her mother? Exploring these and other personal narratives, Scarf reveals how the body, through its neurobiological systems, retains some of life’s most important experiences—and describes how new power therapies, such as reprocessing and psychomotor, have had immediate results where traditional therapies have had a lower success rate.
Grounded in recent breakthroughs in mind/body science and drawing on Scarf’s personal experiences, this book is a masterpiece of research, analysis, and insight into the human psyche, and into human life. |
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