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Title: Hidden Messages : What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children
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| Hidden Messages : What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children by McGraw-Hill Another great book by Elizabeth Pantly! |
| This is a great book. It really puts things into perspective. Read it....it's a good one! I would recommend this book to all parents! |
| Hidden Messages : What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children by McGraw-Hill Pro-active parenting the positive way! |
Although I try to give my child my best love and support and guidance, I've often wondered if I was doing it "right". This book was full of "Aha! So that's what I was missing!" moments, as well as "Duh - of course! No wonder why!" and "Wow, I never even thought of that before!" moments for me. The book is divided into chapters on:
- Responsibility and Independence
- Thoughtfulness and Kindness
- Annoyance and Anger
- Relationships
- Discipline and Behavior
- Listening and Caring and Love
- Time and Priorities
- Parenting Styles
Elizabeth Pantley uses stories to illustrate different aspects on each of these subjects. I especially liked her stories on "Daddy, Play with Me!" about how time goes so quickly for adults but for children every second and minute is weighty, and an hour can last forever; and "Preschool Instructions" about how we give our children lots of wonderful ideas of what to do by issuing commands beginning with "Don't" (they hear everything but the "don't"!)
The foreword by William Sears sums it up best: "Sure to gently tweak the consciences of even the best parents, inspire them to raise their children in a more conscious and sensitive manner - and tug at their heartstrings as a reminder to give constructive messages to their children" - this is the most valuable parenting book I own! |
| Hidden Messages : What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children by McGraw-Hill A must-read for every parent |
| No exaggeration: this book may well change your relationship with your children forever. With amazing insight, Elizabeth Pantley gives us a glimpse into our children's souls during everyday exchanges: grocery shopping, coming home from work, and other ordinary times in our day. What she reveals will definitely make you think twice about some of the ways you've responded in the past. Who among us hasn't brushed off a child who wants to play? Phone calls, email, dishes, and laundry await. But Pantley's tale of the girl waiting for Dad to come home will affect you far more deeply than the platitude "They'll be grown up before you know it." For every parent, at every stage. |
| Hidden Messages : What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children by McGraw-Hill These messages are obvious |
| I bought this book because I loved the No Cry Sleep Solution. After reading the first three examples and the "hidden" messages, I was completely disappointed and returned the book. I found that I didn't even need to finish reading the chapter to guess at what the message was. In one of the chapters, Pantley uses an example from her own parenting. I thought, okay, now she's going to share with us one of her mistakes and how she learned from it, and was about to give her some credit for being honest with her readers. Unfortunately for me, in this example she comes out having done everything correctly (not doing her child's homework project for him) and a number of her son's classmates' parents are in the wrong. Don't we all know that the child should do his/her OWN homework? And maybe by not allowing him/her to do the homework, we are saying that he/she isn't capable of doing it? Or that mom or dad will always be available to tackle the complicated stuff? I don't think that we need a book to figure that out. These messages are anything but subtle. |
| Hidden Messages : What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children by McGraw-Hill Challenging me to better parenting! |
| Reading this book has been a seriously eye-opening experience for me. While I "knew" that our children are little sponges and take in everything around them, I had no idea how many "hidden messages" I was giving my daughter that were so negative. I truly saw myself as an excellent and attached parent, and I still do, but this book has truly called me to a deeper parenting model. Not everyone comes from a wonderful family of origin, and this book showed me how many things I was passing on that I had no intention of teaching my daughter. I recommend this book to every parent! |
| Hidden Messages : What Our Words and Actions Are Really Telling Our Children by McGraw-Hill Product Description |
What are you really telling your children? Elizabeth Pantley, the creator of the bestselling No-Cry parenting books, shows you how to improve the hidden messages behind your words and deeds. She shares with you other parents' stories that demonstrate how they unknowingly sent their kids negative messages through their words and actions. After each story she provides a gentle lesson by showing the child's perspective on the same scenario and offers suggestions for a positive outcome. |
