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Title: Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life
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| Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Three Rivers Press Do The Work! | "The only time we suffer is when we believe a thought that argues with what is. When the mind is perfectly clear, what is is what we want." ~ Byron Katie "from Loving What Is"
THAT, in a nutshell, is the book.
If you want to argue with what is, you will suffer. Period. In fact, "If you want reality to be different than what it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark." :)
The question, of course, is "How can we get to a point where we actually `love what is?'"
Enter: Katie's brilliant book.
For whatever reason, it took me a while to get to this book. I'm glad I did and I think you'll dig it as well. | | Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Three Rivers Press Hits the Nail on the Head | | This book shows us that life is simple and easy, if we let it be. | | Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Three Rivers Press transformational | I was slightly puzzled by this book at first - I thought the four questions were too simple. But by the time I reached the end I had got it - a profound change occurs almost without you realising. Byron Katie's work is really a radical form of cognitive therapy which makes you aware that almost all of our 'problems' and the negativity we feel is caused by our thoughts. I came across this book through a recommendation from Eckhart Tolle, and have come across other great books through him, such as Steve Taylor's The Fall.The Fall: The Evidence for a Golden Age, 6,000 years of Insanity and the Dawning of a New Era
| | Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Three Rivers Press We are the teachers we've been waiting for | | Very good new approach to ask oneself questions to discover the truth behind the lies that one so easily believes and keep us from happiness and love. Interestingly Katie appears to have fused several religious traditions, Zen Buddhism, Christianity and probably many others I don't recognize. And she espouses no overt religious or spiritual tradition remaining completely and forcefully neutral to emphasize the truth of reality instead of what we think we perceive and believe. I ended up reading in my own religious traditions and values to some extent on Katie's teaching and it seemed to work quite well. Otherwise, she seems a little empty, maybe like an Existentialist (as opposed to the Christian-Existentialists like Kierkegaard). But it's still important to break through the lies we believe to understand what is real. Some of her stories are brutally honest and rather explicit but they seem to be good examples of what it takes to understand what we can, let go of what we can't, accept what is and be happy and love and be loved. Peace! | | Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Three Rivers Press Didn't Resonate with Me | I had to read and re-read certain portions and I still could not grasp this. It seems the author is trying her best to make us think that nothing really matters, just don't think about it. Nobody hurts you, you allow them to. And it's okay to allow them to, until you don't allow them to. Your wife leaves you for another man, don't be hurt or angry. That's her truth and she can have it. You can stay or you can leave, but don't have any feelings about what she did. You never have to make any decisions, a voice will come in your head and tell you what to do, and you will do it, automatically, and not even feel yourself doing it.
So we should all end up beings who are above feeling or blaming, and never have any worries. This is just nonsense. If somebody is helped by this book, good, but I think a practical approach to dealing with your feelings and finding a solution to your problem would be better than turning what someone else did to you around on yourself, and then going nowhere. | | Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Three Rivers Press Product Description | Out of nowhere, like a fresh breeze in a marketplace crowded with advice on what to believe, comes Byron Katie and what she calls “The Work.” In the midst of a normal life, Katie became increasingly depressed, and over a ten-year period sank further into rage, despair, and thoughts of suicide. Then one morning, she woke up in a state of absolute joy, filled with the realization of how her own suffering had ended. The freedom of that realization has never left her, and now in Loving What Is you can discover the same freedom through The Work.
The Work is simply four questions that, when applied to a specific problem, enable you to see what is troubling you in an entirely different light. As Katie says, “It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem.” Contrary to popular belief, trying to let go of a painful thought never works; instead, once we have done The Work, the thought lets go of us. At that point, we can truly love what is, just as it is.
Loving What Is will show you step-by-step, through clear and vivid examples, exactly how to use this revolutionary process for yourself. You’ll see people do The Work with Katie on a broad range of human problems, from a wife ready to leave her husband because he wants more sex, to a Manhattan worker paralyzed by fear of terrorism, to a woman suffering over a death in her family. Many people have discovered The Work’s power to solve problems; in addition, they say that through The Work they experience a sense of lasting peace and find the clarity and energy to act, even in situations that had previously seemed impossible.
If you continue to do The Work, you may discover, as many people have, that the questioning flows into every aspect of your life, effortlessly undoing the stressful thoughts that keep you from experiencing peace. Loving What Is offers everything you need to learn and live this remarkable process, and to find happiness as what Katie calls “a lover of reality.”
From the Hardcover edition. | | Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Three Rivers Press Amazon.com | | Remember the phrase "question authority"? Loving What Is is a workbook on questioning authority--but in this case, what is in question is the authority of our own fundamental beliefs about our relationships. Known simply as "The Work," Byron Katie's methods are clean and straightforward. The basis is a series of four questions addressed to your own lists of written assumptions. Whether you're angry with your boss, frustrated with your teen's behavior, or appalled at the state of the world's environment, Katie suggests you write down your most honest thoughts on the matter, and then begin the examination. Starting with, "Is it true?" and continuing with explorations of "Who would you be without that thought?" this method allows you to get through unhelpful preconceptions and find peace. An integral part of the process is "turning the thought around," and at first this can seem like you're simply blaming yourself for everything. Push a little harder, and you'll find a very responsible acceptance of reality, beyond questions of fault and blame. The book is filled with examples of folks applying The Work to a variety of life situations, and reading other's examples gets the idea across pretty clearly; chances are you'll find your own frustrations echoed on the pages a few times. Many chapters are divided into specific topics, such as couples, money, addictions, and self-judgments, with one chapter devoted to exploring the method with children. Questioning your own authority is never an easy process, but it seems well worth the potential rewards--stress-free choices, peace, and affection for those closest to you. --Jill Lightner |
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